The Power of Having Something to Look Forward to
Life can feel like an endless loop of work, obligations, and routines. Without something to punctuate the monotony, the days can blend together, and it’s easy to lose sight of what makes life feel joyful and meaningful. Having something to look forward to, big or small, can provide the boost you need to stay motivated, even in tough times.
When I was going through my divorce, the only things keeping me anchored were the court dates, spaced out months apart. It sounds grim, but knowing I had those future checkpoints helped me push through each stage. It wasn’t about the dates themselves; it was about having a marker in time—a tangible reminder that I was moving forward, even if progress was slow.
Those experiences taught me an important lesson: excitement and anticipation are powerful tools that will give you endurance through life’s challenges. And they don’t require grand gestures or expensive plans. You don’t need to book a three-week trip to Europe or buy a convertible to add a sense of excitement to your life. Often, the smallest rituals and moments of joy can be enough.
The Magic of Anticipation
There’s something magical about knowing something enjoyable is on the horizon. Planning a trip, looking forward to the next episode of a favorite show, or even daydreaming about your morning coffee can significantly boost your mood. The act of anticipating something is as powerful as experiencing it.
If you feel your days have become monotonous, start creating your own moments to look forward to. Here are some examples from my life that I’ve broken down by time periods:
Daily Rituals
Morning coffee: The quiet moment when I sip my first cup of coffee feels like a mini-celebration.
Protein pancakes for dessert: This small indulgence brightens up my evenings.
TV time: Watching a new episode of a favorite show helps me unwind.
Weekly Joys
Connecting with a friend: Whether it’s a phone call or an in-person catch-up, it recharges me.
Fresh bed sheets: Nothing beats the luxury of climbing into a freshly laundered bed.
Takeout sushi: After tackling a big grocery shop, treating myself to ready-made sushi feels like a reward. I’m one of those people who will not prep the food I bought from the store. That’s for a different day. lol
Monthly Highlights
Turning the calendar page: There’s something symbolic and refreshing about starting a new month.
Budgeting: Writing down my budget gives me a sense of control and optimism.
Café weekends: Treating myself to a quiet café visit when the kids are with their other parent is something I look forward to.
Yearly Traditions
Relaxing holidays: These are an anchor in the year, offering much-needed downtime.
Vision boards: Setting intentions and goals for the year keeps me focused.
A letter to myself: Reflecting on what I want to experience during the year is grounding.
Rereading The Alchemist: Each year, I find new lessons in its pages that resonate with my current phase of life.
Creating Your Own Events
You don’t have to rely on societal calendars or traditional holidays to find joy. Create your own events and rituals. Host an annual “Friendsgiving” in spring or a themed dinner party just because you can. These personal traditions can be just as fulfilling as widely celebrated holidays.
Timing Is Everything
Certain times of the year—post-holiday blues, late summer lulls, or the slog of February—can feel particularly challenging. Having small or large things to anticipate during these periods can make all the difference.
The Takeaway
Adding excitement to your life doesn’t have to be complicated. Start small: a favorite meal, a new book, or a chat with a friend. The act of anticipating something you genuinely enjoy is a powerful mood booster. By creating moments to look forward to, you’re not just marking time—you’re filling your days with purpose and joy.
What are you looking forward to today?